Misconeptions About Boundaries
It is important to realize that limits and boundaries never tell a person what to do, nor do they punish people for not doing it our way, setting limits is telling people what we will and will not do, and allowing natural consequences to do the rest. Again, natural consequences is NOT a punishment!
Example: “I only do laundry on Sunday afternoons. I am more than happy to do all laundry that is in the basket by then. If you miss the basket and need laundry before then, you can either wash it yourself, or I will be doing laundry again the following Sunday.”
Setting boundaries in this way allows a person to experience safety and freedom in any particular relationship, as it removes them from taking on the responsibility of others. Oftentimes, people will try to gain their power back through nagging those that they gave their power away to in the first place.